Single people often wonder how to find friends. But they do not even suspect how simple everything is, in fact!

The concept of "friendship" has its own meaning for everyone. For some, this is mutual assistance, for others - the ability to listen and give advice, for others - a great time spent together.

Friendship can be very different: between two or more people of the same sex or opposite sexes, between relatives, between husband and wife, between those who have never seen each other in real life, between man and animal - this is also friendship!

And in order to have as many of these connections as possible, you need to be a good, kind, sympathetic and disinterested person who has his own interests and personal opinion.

Where to look

Find new friends in modern world very easy due to the development of society and technology.

So, if you have acquired this goal, the following will suit you:

• educational institution;
• Job;
• sections, trainings, circles;
• the Internet;
• parties and holidays;
• public places and much, much more.

So, the best friend you can meet is like in the parent committee kindergarten where you take your child, and in the car park, where it was difficult for you to park the car.

Old connections will also help you quickly find new friends - dating through someone will accompany you throughout your life.

Start with yourself

What qualities do you need to have in order to easily find yourself many new acquaintances?

In general, we are all different: some like emotional people, while others are more restrained; some are attracted to impulsive people, while others are attracted to calm and less energetic people.

Therefore, to the question of how to find real friends and what needs to be done to get guaranteed result, it is impossible to answer unambiguously.

How to find your friends

For communication

You can find friends for communication both in your city and in a foreign country. The main thing is that you are interested in each other.

Perhaps you will be united by work, study, the problem of utility payments, the prolonged absence of a cashier, etc. The main thing is to start a conversation, and then your communication may develop into a real strong friendship!

Important: However, do not rush to tell an unfamiliar person all the most intimate. This, of course, will bring you closer to some extent, but no one guarantees that other people will not learn your secrets (of course, from your interlocutor).

In order to talk about painful things, you can find a pen pal or chat with a person who has nothing to do with your usual society (for example, an acquaintance from another city).

By interest

For this you need:

• sign up for any courses, a thematic club, training, etc. (driving school, manicure training, carving circle);
• find on the Internet a person similar to you (who joined the same group on a social network, with a page designed with statuses and demotivators that are close to your liking, etc.).

However, in order to find friends of interest, you also need to be an open person. So, meeting with one person every day, you talk to him “about nothing” (“How are you?” - “Normal!” - “Oh, and the weather today” - “Yeah ...”).

Or maybe you have a lot in common? To do this, you need to start a narrower communication. You can ask him about something, tell something of your own, invite him to dine together, etc.

By correspondence

First you need to register on any dating site (teamo.ru, [email protected], etc.) or on a social network (Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki, etc.).

Well design your page:

• attach a good photo;
• list your interests;
• write about yourself as much as possible (as a rule, you don’t need to invent anything for this, but you just need to fill out the proposed questionnaire).

When texting, be an interesting and creative conversationalist (to make it clear to you: communication based on one only “Hi. How are you?” Will most likely end unsuccessfully). Write to the interlocutor sincerely about your wishes to find a good friend.

After a while, you can call your pen friend on the phone number linked to his page and continue to communicate more closely.

Abroad

It's good if you know foreign languages. Then you can start a conversation with a person of a different nationality, having learned the way from him, asking for a light, etc. In the course of communication, you can tell him what country you are from and what business you came here for.

Unobtrusively inform that he is your first acquaintance in this state. If you are interested in him, he will be glad to have your conversation, and later he will say that he will be glad to help you on any issue.

If you cannot connect sentences in a non-native language, then turn on your eyes and ears: track down your countryman among foreigners. As a rule, this is not particularly difficult in countries that are popular with tourists. And then act according to the situation.

The main thing - do not be shy: go to the company, tell them that you are alone here and ask permission to join them. Be sure - countrymen do not abandon "their own".

For an adult

It is always easier to make friends when you are young than when you are older.

But this is quite possible, thanks to:

• acquaintances (do not refuse to attend various events to which you are invited);
• the Internet (dating sites, social networks, forums, etc. are suitable for you);
• your responsive and interesting nature (help people, communicate in queues, understand the psychology of people, etc.);
• public places (clubs, restaurants).

It happens that adults, without thinking about how to find good friends, find real comrades in a completely ordinary life: for example, waiting for a bus at a bus stop, on trains, buying goods in a specialized store (door, plumbing, etc.).

But quite extraordinary cases also happen: a person could not pass a drunken man lying on the grass in neat clothes on the street, brought him to the house and ... Oops! Here he is - a true friend who unsuccessfully celebrated the birth of his son!

company

In order to find a company in which you will be interested, you should:

• more often to be at any events (corporate parties, birthdays, seeing off to the army, etc.);
• take part in planned movements (rallies, flash mobs, etc.);
• go to folk festivals (City Day, New Year, Maslenitsa, etc.).

In all these crowded places, you meet several people at once, united by common interests.

Another option: ask any of your friends to take you for a walk with their friends. Surely he will not refuse you this.

For traveling

If you have planned to go on a trip, but none of your friends have the opportunity to keep you company, then:

• refer to special sites that are created so that single travelers find friends for themselves (Participant.ru, Makhnem.ru, etc.);
• make acquaintances while already on the road (in a bus, plane, hotel, on the beach, etc.).

For short trips, the option of searching for adventures by hitchhiking is suitable. So you will have the opportunity to make a lot of new acquaintances.

child at school

You can also help your child find new friends:

Who better not to be friends with

However, there are also people with whom friendships should be avoided. These include:

And in general, it should be borne in mind that any person who causes you any discomfort (unintentionally humiliates, demands too much, leads a different lifestyle than you are used to, etc.) is unlikely to become a good friend for you. You are just too different.

1. Don't sit on the sidelines. It is more difficult for an introvert to make new acquaintances, because it is unlikely that someone will pull his hand for a good time. Join the companies yourself!
2. Take everything from life! A bright person who is not afraid to receive new emotions is always interesting to society.
3. Don't refuse help. Grateful people are good friends. The only thing is, don't let yourself be taken advantage of.
4. Don't be demanding. Remember: no one owes you anything! Nowhere and never.
5. Get yourself a dog. This is the most devoted friend who will never leave you! It is clear that she will not be able to replace your interlocutor, but with the help of her you will find new acquaintances with other dog lovers walking their pets.

Video: Lessons in friendliness

Many girls and guys are wondering: "How to find a suitable interlocutor for communication?" If in the regions of Russia, this problem is not so acute, then in megacities and large cities there is such a problem. There may not be such a problem if you live and study and work - all in one place and city. But often a person grows up in one city, studies in another, and lives in a third. Such a frequent change of residence does not allow - to acquire true friends and a good environment, but you always want to talk and chat.

In order to find a suitable interlocutor for communication, you need to start leading a more active lifestyle:

• become more open;
• be more polite;

After all, open people communicate easier, they make friends easier, even smile easier).

Need to create traffic

What does it mean? Traffic is a stream of people that you can encounter every day, if they are rude people for the whole day - and so every day, then one idea will develop and it’s difficult to get to know or start a conversation there - everyone who is tired goes either to work or after work home, exception - maybe during the day. But still - you need to create a traffic of people with whom you will "face" (views, communication) in a more relaxed atmosphere. For example, to chat - people go to Gorky Park, or to, or to a special chat.

I think the main goal is clear - you need to be where the atmosphere and the situation are for communication, dating, etc.

Isn't it wonderful that nowadays you can communicate limitlessly through the Internet? Our letters are not delivered to the addressee for several weeks or even months across the planet to talk about how our day went, today for this we just need to click the mouse.

Communication in the virtual world

Thanks to virtual communication, we can communicate with old friends who have gone abroad, with distant relatives, call up and correspond with classmates and classmates. Is it possible to find friends on the Internet who share our interests? Of course, all this is so simple, because there are virtual mail, instant messengers, social networks, chats and Skype. We do not languish in anticipation of a letter, but we can communicate endlessly via video link with each other every day. All this helps us to stay in touch with loved ones.

virtual friends

Communicating in social networks with our friends and relatives, we often stumble upon the pages of people from other cities, countries living several thousand kilometers away. Boundless and erasing distance virtual communication allows us to view their pages, follow their life on the Web and, of course, communicate and make friends.

Friendship on the Internet is romantic, mysterious and has many advantages, but the Internet cannot give us the opportunity to take our friend by the hand, hug him. Messengers and Skype are not omnipotent, but if you are a loyal friend who is willing to wait, one day you will be able to overcome the distance between you and experience the joy of meeting.

Finding new friends on the Internet is very easy, we will definitely tell you how to do it, as well as talk about the advantages and disadvantages of long-distance friendship, virtual communication etiquette and how to save friendship.

Pros of virtual friendship

Before you find friends on the Internet, you need to know that friendship at a distance requires endurance, patience. Let's talk about the benefits of virtual communication and friendship at a distance:

• highlight as a plus the fact that virtual friendship is available, and there are no obligations between friends;
• your friend does not care how you look, what you are wearing, whether you are overweight, because he communicates with you because he is interested;
• you have no reason to envy, we are all equal on the Internet;
• you can be frank with a virtual friend, he will not be able to use information about you as compromising evidence;
• you can be anyone on the Internet, as well as be much more honest than in life;
• if you do not want to communicate now or want to end the friendship, all this is solved with a couple of clicks.

Disadvantages of a friend at a distance

Alas, virtual friendship is not able to replace real friends. And sincere friendship is very rare on the Web. You both have to reach out and hold on to this friendship to endure the distance, the time.

There are as many downsides to virtual friendships as there are upsides:

• you cannot be sure of the sincerity of your interlocutor;
• if you do not communicate by phone or video, you have no guarantee that the person is who he claims to be;
• it will be difficult for you to get useful advice from a virtual friend, he does not know you in life;
• your virtual friend will not be able to come and comfort you if there is a long distance between you.

But what if you have an online friend? Nothing, communicate, because it's great that you have found yourself an interesting interlocutor. The main thing is to be confident in this person and continue to maintain relationships. Perhaps one day you will have the opportunity to meet in person.

How to find friends on the Internet?

Well, we have already figured out what virtual communication is and what are the pros and cons of communicating with a person via the Internet. Now we have to find out how and where to find friends on the Internet. What sites, applications, platforms help people find each other? Perhaps we will be able to find a friend closer to you, and not several thousand kilometers away, and get rid of a few disadvantages.

Online communities

You probably have a page on a social network, it can be Odnoklassniki, Vkontakte, Facebook, as well as various instant messengers. These are all great, convenient places to find an old friend online or meet new people. To find a new person, you need to find groups, forums and chats that bring together people with the same interests. All you need is an unobtrusive offer to get acquainted. There is nothing to be ashamed of on the Internet.

If you are looking for new acquaintances in your city, then you can search for groups whose main theme is your city. Usually such groups have names: "Typical Smolensk", "Overheard in Irkutsk". There are groups created to search for each other, for dating, search by name: “Looking for you in Minsk” or “Dating in Lviv”. There you can communicate with fellow countrymen and, if you make friends, it will not be difficult for you to meet.

After opening the group, read the posts of other people, view the comments, or leave some information about yourself. People who are bored and want to get to know you will definitely write to you.

If you live in a big city, for example in the capital, then by finding a group of your interests ( computer games, hunting, needlework), you can open a search by participants and select your city. The main thing is that your city is large, and the group is popular.

Gatherings and meetings

If you are still looking for a friend of interest, then in popular groups, for example, in the fandoms of musical groups and TV shows, gatherings are organized, mass meetings of guys who want to get acquainted with the same people like them, for example, fans of the Supernatural series. Most often, meetings are scheduled in the city center, in squares, at shopping centers, at sights where there are a lot of people. These places are safe for meetings and are chosen due to the large number of walkers.

Some groups create separate forums, discussions, joint chats and conversations so that people get to know each other. It's convenient, leave your request. Perhaps you can find a friend from your city, or maybe one who lives across the street.

Dating sites and apps

On the Internet, you can find many sites that allow you to look for each other. Dating sites Tabor, Badoo, Tinder are focused specifically on meeting new people. Such sites are divided into several categories and each of them has its own filters. On any of them, you can indicate the purpose of your acquaintance: romantic relationships, friendship, one-time meetings.

The most popular and very handy application for that is Tinder. This largest service, operating all over the world, is looking for friends near you for you. Register, fill out the form, post a photo and indicate the purpose of acquaintance. Tag people you like, if they like you too, the app will notify you and offer to write. This is excellent ground for finding a new friend.

Online Games

This is another way to find friends over the Internet. If you like to play computer games, register in a browser game or install it on a PC, tablet, smartphone. If you have never played online games before, you should give it a try. This is not only an interesting adventure, but also the place where it is easiest to find friends on the Internet. In the course of the game, strong ones are created between the students. Conquering virtual peaks and conquering virtual castles, you will not only find common topics for conversation, but, by uniting, you will be able to help each other achieve virtual victories. If you wish, you can continue to communicate on the Internet in popular social networks or in real life.

Online games are very popular, many of them are played by people all over the world, so games can be considered a great option to find an online friend from another country.

Communication rules

Before making friends on the Internet, remember the etiquette. It does not differ much from the real one, let's briefly discuss some of its aspects:

• to win over a person, put things in order on your page, remove material that can alienate someone from you;
• try to write correctly so that the interlocutor is pleased to read you;
• do not abuse emoticons, exclamation points and capital letters;
• write thoughts in messages completely, and do not break into several parts, breaking sentences;
• when getting to know each other, avoid banal remarks;
• don't swear;
• avoid dirty jokes if you don't know the person well;
• Be polite.

Respect your interlocutor, respect his time and opinion, so that you are treated the same way, and then you will have a good, interesting friend, a pleasant interlocutor.

How to keep friendship?

When you find your virtual friend, you will have to try hard not to miss the thread of communication. Do not stop communication if you do not agree on an opinion or on other trifles. Don't push your friend away if he makes contact. If now is not the time to talk, tell him so, but don't ignore his messages.

Joke, send notes and photos to each other, this will help maintain communication, if nothing is happening and nothing to tell, perhaps in this way you will find a new topic for communication.

Feel free to text your friend first, there's nothing wrong with that, he's your friend. Show interest in him, ask how he is doing. Call sometimes using Skype or instant messengers, a real voice will noticeably reduce the distance between you. It's always nice to hear a friend's voice.

Try to surprise your friend. For example, write a letter, send a small package or order delivery to his house, maybe flowers or a toy, a cake or any other little thing. Despite the fact that you did not present this gift, you chose it, it is very nice.

Yes, write letters. It is very touching to pick up a letter that a friend diligently wrote out. Do not forget about important dates, birthdays or dating days. Memory and a small, albeit virtual, postcard - it's very nice. Support your friend with a conversation if he is feeling down or sad. It is a pity that you cannot come to him, but try to comfort him with words or call, it will help.

We are sure you will find our tips on how to find friends online, how to behave and how to keep in touch with them useful. Despite the fact that virtual friendship implies a long distance between you, if you really want to, then one day you can meet.

If you are alone, it may seem that you will find desired internet interlocutor and establish a trusting relationship with him is the most difficult thing in the world.

The Internet is a place where people always make new acquaintances, so how can you use this resource to its fullest and fullest?

About literacy

The first thing to do before you start chatting on dating sites or online communities with people is to clear your speech.

Proper construction of grammatical structures in sentences will give you more opportunities to start communication with an educated and interesting person.

It is rare that someone starts communicating immediately on a webcam in programs similar to, most often, the first impression of a person has to be added precisely from text messages. Try to remember this and not be illiterate.

To be honest or not to be

When you meet a person online who interests you, be honest with him. No need to immediately send him a lot of your photos, share purely personal information. There must be honesty in your attitude towards the person.

Do not play around and write directly about your impressions of communicating with him, about the requirements for friendship and love, about your basic interests.

About anonymity

There is an element of intriguing, pleasant anonymity in online correspondence that captivates many. Save it.

Make sure that your text conversation is interesting for both of you, compensate for the understatement that would be absent in personal communication with entertaining messages.

Don't talk too much about yourself, but don't be too cryptic to the other person if they're interested in you.

Location

Remember that a suitable geographical location is not the only determining thing when choosing an online interlocutor. A lot of interesting people live in different parts of the world, and you can communicate with them, regardless of their location.

Look for people with similar hobbies, interests, and not by the city or country you like. On the Internet, the real location of the interlocutor does not really matter, but the commonality of interests and views matters.

Goals defined

Think about what your expectations are. Are you looking for a friend or life partner, are you ready for open communication with many, or do you prefer a narrow circle of comrades whom you can trust 100%? All these factors affect the psychology of online correspondence. You need to decide in advance what you want, and then proceed in this direction.

As Nikita Sergeevich Khrushchev said in his final speech at the 22nd Congress of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union (1962), the phrase that became catchphrase: “Our goals are clear, the tasks are defined. Get to work, comrades!”

Where to look?

The Internet is an endless place for conversations and dating, but its population is huge. You can fall into a stupor and get confused in so many potential interlocutors.

Simplify your life. Everyone has a hobby, passion. Start looking for online communication on sites dedicated specifically to your hobby. This will significantly narrow down the range of possible omissions and misunderstandings that could await you on other general sites.

Here you will know for sure that your interests will not go unnoticed and unappreciated.

Free chat to communicate

To chat in this chat right now, online

• at the bottom of the chat window, click "Guest",
• enter a name (nickname), click “Login”,
• click on the button "Enter the chat",
• at the bottom of the chat window, write a message, click "Send".

Online communication will work if you are also online in the chat at the same time. If no one is online at that time, you can leave a message in the chat and return to the chat later.

Many people experience a common social problem: they don't know exactly how to make friends and arrange their social life.

There are several reasons why you might be in this situation.

• You have moved to a new city, and so far your circle of acquaintances is very narrow.
• You've been in a relationship with a girl for a long time and you've let your social life fade away.
• Your old friends naturally left your life (moved on, became busy with their family, etc.), but you did not find a replacement for them.
• A significant part of your environment died overnight, like many who graduated from an educational institution and stopped living in the city of education.
• You feel that your personality level has become much higher than the level of your current friends, and you want to "upgrade" your environment.
• In the past, it was enough for you to have one friend, but now you are determined to expand your social circle.
• You never knew how to make friends and always wanted to improve your social life.
• Significant changes have taken place in your life, for example, you have decided not to drink alcohol anymore, and you need to change the environment, because people who were once close to you are no longer suitable for you.

Identify Potential Friends

To expand your circle of friends, you first need to identify possible candidates. There are two main ways to do this.

Identify your current contacts

This does not apply to you if you have just moved to a new area where you don't know anyone.

As a rule, you already have a certain level of social connections.

You don't have to go out and meet ten strangers. It is often easier to turn existing contacts of strangers into full-fledged friends than to involve completely new faces in your life.

Chances are, there are already a few people in your environment who you already know who can become a closer part of your new social circle.

These are people like:

• People you meet on a daily basis, such as on your way to work, shopping, etc.
• Your colleagues or fellow students with whom you have managed to establish contact.
• Friends of acquaintances with whom you have previously met.
• The initiators of friendship with you, whose proposal you once treated with indifference.
• People with whom you often cross paths, but so far you have been separated by social distance.
• Friends with whom you once lost contact, but you are able to return everything to its previous course.
• Acquaintances with whom you have not previously communicated due to a significant difference in age.

Meet new people

Strengthening your current social connections can be a long process.

But sometimes you are at a point in your life when you need to meet brand new people.

For many people, a significant barrier to expanding their social circle is the lack of direct access to potential new friends.

The most obvious sources of new contacts are:

• Visiting various communities of interest, where you are sure to meet a lot of people who already have something in common with you. It is best if the activity of the community is connected with communication. This should also include visiting various courses, trainings, lectures, reading rooms, sports clubs, dance schools, etc.
• Meet people through your school or job. By observing the same faces every day, you can gradually get to know them better without falling under social pressure.
• Cultivate relationships with your friends' friends.

Meeting new people will certainly require extra effort from you so that you can escape from everyday routine.

by the most effective way to make friends is to lead a fulfilling, interesting, fulfilling life, the side effect of which will be the intersection of your life path with large quantity new people.

When new people start to appear around you, you should start talking to them and try to get to know them better.

Not everyone you interact with will become your friend, but bringing enough people into your social circle will allow you to form friendships with some of them.

And anyway, why would you try to be friends with everyone?

Friendship formula

1. The environment brings you together
   It's easier to make friends among the people you meet in educational institution, at work, or in some community of interest. It's like a context that allows a friendship to start.
   That's why you can't just get to know a person by walking up to them on the street. You need a context that brings you together.
   
2. Suitable Situation
   This means that you and the other person have the time, energy, and desire to invest in a new friendship.
   It also means that both of you have the opportunity to develop friendships. If either of you are planning to move to another city, what's the point in trying to develop your friendship?
   
3. Successful first communication
   Your first communication is very important, as it determines the level of comfort and trust, allowing you to establish that each of you can be a pleasant company for the other.
   It also performs other functions such as relaxation, entertainment, and building rapport.
4. You must be sociable and responsive
   To find friends, you should keep up the conversation and show interest in the interlocutor and in the topics discussed.
   If either of you gives short answers and little interest in other people's opinions, behavior and mood, then you will not have a solid foundation for developing friendships.
   
5. Common traits with another person
   One of the most important prerequisites for making friends is having common interests and similarities in opinions, hobbies, habits, or activities.
   The more you find in common with another person, the easier it will be for you to establish a friendly relationship with him.
   
6. Basic trust in each other
   This means that both you and the other person you have met are involved in the process of disclosing personal information to each other.
   You start with very neutral personal information and then go deeper as the level of trust grows.

Step 2 Invite potential friends to do something together

Once you get to know people you're interested in talking to, invite them to meet again outside of where you met. This is the most important step to take in order to make friends.

You can meet a huge number of people, but if you don't take action to develop an acquaintance, these people will remain just temporary passengers on the train of your life.

It seems obvious, but single people often fall into this trap.

Perhaps someone constantly tells them funny stories at work, or strikes up a conversation at university, but they do not take steps to suggest meeting in a different setting and developing communication.

At first, it will be strange to try to take the initiative, because there is always the possibility of rejection, but they are quite easy to get used to.

Depending on the conditions of acquaintance, you can quickly start transferring new people to the status of friends, or you will have to wait for some time, for example, several weeks.

Get in the habit of sharing contacts

Sharing contacts with people is very useful.

You may meet an interesting person, but you never know when you will see him next.

Therefore, exchange phone numbers or become friends on social networks.

That way, if the opportunity or need arises to get together, you can easily contact them.

In addition, if your new acquaintances have your contact information, they, in turn, will also be able to invite you to some event.

Don't reject offers

Of course, your own plans are of great importance, but if someone offers to spend time with you, try to accept the offer.

This doesn't mean you have to agree all the time. For example, if the proposed activity is out of your comfort zone, or you have an exam on the scheduled day, then your refusal would be completely appropriate.

However, if you're just a little unsure, it's best to say yes. Why give up the opportunity to get out of the house with a group of people?

When you have more friends and different competing options, you can become more selective.

If you're a more shy or lonely person, you tend to assume that the meeting won't be all that fun and you shouldn't go.

Try to push those thoughts away and go anyway. You are often not sure how enjoyable something can be until you see it with your own eyes.

Sometimes you will have to inconvenience yourself for the sake of your social life.

You may be invited to a movie you are not interested in, or someone may call you to meet on Friday night when you are going to bed.

You will often have to make compromises, but the prospect of a rich social life is worth the minor inconvenience.

Here's another thing you should consider. Many people will stop inviting you if you keep saying no.

Your acquaintances may not have anything against you, but the next time an event is scheduled, the thought will arise: “He always refuses my invitations, so there is no point in calling him this time.”

Step 3 Maintain and develop friendships

It is not so difficult to communicate with someone once in a lifetime or to do it from time to time.

However, in order to form closer friendships, you need to keep in touch, spend time together, share emotions, and get to know each other on a deeper level.

You won't be able to find a friend in every person, but over time you will be able to build close relationships with some people.

Once you find friends, lean on them to expand your social circle.

Once you have one or two friends, consider that you have laid the foundation for expanding your social connections.

If you are not very sociable by nature, one or two good buddies may be all you need to be quite content with the society around you.

But sooner or later you will meet your friend's friends, with whom you can also establish friendly relations.

Friends will make it easier for you to meet brand new people, because together with your company you will be able to attend various events and expand your circle of acquaintances.

Step 4 Treat Your Friends Right

Be positive and don't spread negativity

While it's natural to share your problems, if you constantly complain and have a generally negative attitude towards others and life in general, then people will get tired of your whining and negativity.

Everyone has enough problems in life, and no one needs the extra tons of unpleasant experiences that you decide to bestow on others.

However, good friend will always listen to you when you need it, so do not take the voiced information as “never complain to anyone”.

Be full of energy and share more positive emotions.

Become an attentive listener

Make no mistake when you deliberately turn communication into your solo performance.

If your interlocutor wants to speak, be sure to listen carefully.

Do interesting things

If you are excited about life, have interesting hobbies, improve, create, explore, get new experiences, meet new people, you can become a magnet for others, and your life itself will take on a new level.

Smile

Don't smile all the time or at the wrong time. Other times, your sincere smile will make you more attractive and personable.

Keep calm

And while it's great to have a lot of energy, people who are overly dramatic and impulsive for no reason can alienate other people.

Therefore, learn to respond to most problems calmly, trying not to increase their scale to the level of a universal tragedy.

Be yourself, don't brag

Don't try to impress people all the time. If you're confident, you don't need it at all.

Do not try to appear better than you really are, especially when such behavior of yours is done for show.

Be confident and happy with yourself

Be happy with who you are and even your flaws. People don't like other people with low self-esteem.

Learn to see in yourself positive sides, your sincere heart and your perfect nature. Let this be the story you tell yourself.

Step 5 Do the above more often

If you have introduced two friends into your social circle and stopped there, it is unlikely that your social ties will continue to expand on their own.

After you constantly use new ways to meet people and attend various events, you will have a lot of friends and acquaintances.

You don't have to have an infinite number of friends. Many people are perfectly happy with only a few very close friendships.

However, if the current state of affairs does not suit you, you know how to make friends.

You must make an effort

Your personal initiative is the most important principle in building friendships.

It is a big mistake to be in a state of passive waiting and hoping for a whiff of fate. Of course, it's great if this happens, but you shouldn't count on it too much.

If you are wondering how to make friends, then the first thing you will have to do is put in enough effort to do so.

If you want to have fun on the weekend, don't think that everything will work out by itself. Contact your friends and think of doing something together, or find out what they will be doing and join them.

Finding friends is really easy.

If you are not experienced enough in making new contacts, this process may seem more complicated and lengthy than it actually is.

Often all you have to do to make friends is get to know people and spend some quality time with them.

You don't have to know them for a few months before being promoted to friend status.

Of course, if you just met someone, at first your relationship will be somewhat superficial, but it won't be too long before you can safely consider yourself friends.

Don't be too picky in the beginning

If you are single, your initial goal should be to create at least some sort of social life. Undoubtedly, avoid really negative and superfluous personalities for your destiny.

But if you meet an interesting person who doesn't seem like the perfect friend at first, give them a chance. The benefits of companionship, as opposed to loneliness, must outweigh the fact of imperfection.

Also, if you are just starting to form your social circle, you probably do not fully understand what you want to see in other people.

If you get along with someone more or less, develop a closer relationship with them, and later decide whether you should become friends.

Even if at the very beginning new company led your mind to a dead end of bewilderment, over time everything can change.

Lonely people tend to be more negative towards others. And if you notice in yourself a similar attitude towards others, it is important for you to make an effort to consciously change your behavior.

Be persistent

Sometimes you join a company or get to know your friend's friends and hope to meet a large number of great new people.

But once in a new society, you begin to feel out of place. You may feel like you are unable to communicate with anyone, or as if you are being ignored.

Make a few more attempts, make a few more meetings, because at the first meeting there are natural social restrictions and some enslavement. Over time, the warmth of friendly relations will warm the ice of misunderstanding at the first stage of communication.

If someone refuses your offer because they are busy, don't worry. Try again another time.

Do not assume that you are being treated with disdain. The very fact of the initiative shown will work for you in the future, when your friend may need company.

When you meet new acquaintances, you must really be important in their lives and you should consider that you won't be able to become friends in the blink of an eye.

They probably already have their own social circle, and their world will not end if you do not become part of this environment.

Therefore, be neutral about their behavior and reaction to the offer to spend time together, because people can really be busy.

Just keep meeting other people and expanding your social connections.

Patience

You can often get your social life back on track fairly quickly, such as if you've just moved to a new city to attend university, or you've joined a soccer team. In other cases, it will take longer to find friends.

It will take some time to find the right people for you. After that, it may take several months before you feel like you have a friend.

But do not forget that friendship is a part of interpersonal relationships that do not always lend themselves to rules and logic, so go to your goal, but do not discount spontaneity.

In conclusion. About friendship

Benefits of having friends

1. Mood improvement
   Spending time with happy and positive friends improves your mood and even your appearance.
   
2. Help to achieve goals
   Encouragement of your ideas from friends helps to increase your willpower and increase your chances of success.
   
3. Reducing the likelihood of stress and depression
   Having an active social life strengthens your immune system and, eliminating isolation from the outside world, eliminates factors.
4. Support in difficult times
   Friends can help you deal with a serious illness, the loss of a job or a loved one, or any other problem in life, especially if you just need to share your feelings with someone.
5. Increase self-esteem
   Feeling the need for you from your friends and adds meaning to your life.

To understand that a person is worthy of your friendship, ask yourself questions

• Do I feel better after spending time with this person?
• Do I want to share my thoughts with him?
• In his company, do I feel safe, free and uninhibited, or do I feel that I need to watch my words and actions?
• Does he support me and treat me with respect?
• Can I trust him?

To find out if a person has an interest in befriending you, ask yourself

• Does he ask you questions about you, as if he wants to know you better?
• Does he tell you about himself, besides making superficial conversations?
• Does he give you all his attention when you see him?
• Was he interested in exchanging contact information or making plans for spending time together or working together?